No matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions, in life you are going to make mistakes and you're going to end up hurting people... People you 'love'.. and you're going to get hurt. And if you ever hope to recover, there's really only one thing you can do - the old adage stands true - "Forgive and Forget!"
BUT - is it really DOABLE??
When someone hurts us.. we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us.. we want to be right.
Without forgiveness old scores never settled.. old wounds never heal... Let's not forget though that if you forgive someone, you automatically forfeit the right to constantly throw in their face reminding them of what they did!
As they say "Forget" doesn't heal, "Forgive" does..
Then again you could argue that "Forgive" alone wont get us that far - we HAVE to "Forget"!
So.. the most we could all hope for is that one day we'll be lucky enough to forget.
In retrospect - I think I've always forgiven people simply because I still want them in my life...
Forgiving is easy, with time you realise there was always a reason why someone hurt you and then you are able to forgive them.
ReplyDeleteForgetting is not so easy though..You got to suffer brain damage to be able to forget! Life is all about memories I think. Both good and bad, and they both haunt us.Usually at the most unexpected times.